You know how the saying goes, “I forgive, but I don’t forget.”
Makes sense.. you let things go from your heart, but you remember the people that hurt you and keep your guard up in the future. Smart.
However, my mom lives by the opposite sayings in many of life situations.
For example, when I was 14 years old and had just started my first serious relationship, my friends were missing me.
Me-“Mom, Jennifer says we haven’t hung out since I started dating Greg, but Greg wants to come over tonight. Should I tell him no and have a sleepover with my friends?”
Mom-“Honey, Friends come and go, but boys last forever”
I lost a lot of friends that summer and over the years of adolescence ditching them for my boyfriends.
It wasn’t until years later that I realized that all other moms in the ENTIRE world, told their daughters the exact opposite… it really goes, “Boys come and go, but FRIENDS last forever!”
So… back to forgiving and forgetting… not that she consciously does this.. but, I’m almost certain that my mom Never forgives, but Always forgets!!
This unconscious life motto leaves her heart hardened and confused. She’s always mad at someone, but never remembers who or why… which, then lead to explosive family gatherings after she’s had too much to drink. She lashes out on the wrong person about the wrong things and wakes up the next day as if it never happened.
How do you deal with someone that never forgives… but, constantly forgets??
Any advice here would be greatly appreciated!! =)
For now… I’ll take it, like I do many of my troubles and laugh at the irony.
Forgetting and never forgiving seems much more difficult for her than me.
So, maybe I shouldn’t complain?